sql: upgrade XORM and preserve SQLite metadata compatibility

[zhijian-pro]

Summary

• Upgrade XORM to the Juicedata fork and refresh related dependencies.
• Update metadata mappings for XORM’s exported-field handling.
• Make row locking SQLite-compatible by skipping unsupported FOR UPDATE clauses.
• Improve unlink handling and avoid creating slice references for zero-valued slice IDs.

Testing

• Not run (not requested)

[codecov]

Codecov Report

❌ Patch coverage is 72.30769% with 18 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.
✅ Project coverage is 40.93%. Comparing base (53835e2) to head (ee40752).

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
pkg/meta/sql.go	73.33%	8 Missing and 8 partials ⚠️
pkg/meta/sql_lock.go	60.00%	0 Missing and 2 partials ⚠️

Additional details and impacted files

@@            Coverage Diff             @@
##             main    #7411      +/-   ##
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+ Coverage   34.47%   40.93%   +6.46%     
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  Files         140      177      +37     
  Lines       48322    58725   +10403     
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+ Hits        16658    24040    +7382     
- Misses      29984    31766    +1782     
- Partials     1680     2919    +1239     

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